When You Are Single
When you are single
everything reminds you.
Commercials remind you
everything is cheaper
if you buy in twos.
Your big idle pots remind you
since you almost never cook for two
Your favourite dress reminds you;
it needs help zipping from the back
Those nosy acquaintances too
with questions you have no answers to.
‘Bolaji when are we eating your wedding rice?’
You drag a smile as you reply
‘ Aunty Moji, when are we attending your funeral?’
(if only you could say it out loud).
Oh… and your mother too
with special ways of making it
the roof on every dialogue.
Even at a funeral
reading Late Mama Yejide’s biography
She goes; ‘’really, I didn’t know
Mama Yejide married at 21?’’
with all the emphasis
in all the deliberate places.
Being single can come with a lot of pressure both internal and external.
It’s considered a taboo if you dare ask if everyone will eventually marry. The worse is when older Aunt’s will tell you ” my dear lower your standard all men are the same” as if you ever had a discussion prior to that with them. It has never occurred to anyone that you might actually be happier than them.
LMAO! Story of my life!
Lol! Story of my life…. Btw you’re a very amazing and talented writer.. I’m sure u’ve been told so countless times but one more time don’t hurt!
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Love it! So relatable, definitely going to try the when are we coming for your burial line,
Love it. Society and their pressures as if marriage leads to heaven’s door